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I don't know whether to pull this relationship - it turned out that my girlfriend has friends. Is that normal?

I don't know if any of you had a similar situation. If so, I'd appreciate your help. I had to move to Poznan to graduate. Unluckily, I had to live a little bit further away from my girlfriend, with whom I've been with for about a year and a half. We were always happy with each other, she was never missing anything, we stayed at home as the situation allowed. I knew her parents, we had great contact and we still have it - just like she did with mine. But as in any relationship - crises happen. Recently, I have noticed that my girlfriend has started to get along with a lot of "colleagues". I can understand that she works with some of them. Only that not every colleague gives her friend a gift of going to the movies and coffee on women's day. Especially when she is busy. Let me just add that Dominika asked me for permission to go out with her friend. I didn't like the idea because I didn't know who he was, how long they knew each other... And it pissed me off that we can't spend the day together for miles. So it wasn't - yes, I made her wishes for women's day and I have a gift prepared for her, but now I had a rehearsal session at the university and I couldn't come to her. The truth is, I come to her as often as I can. But I can't see her anymore through college. When I wanted to ask her to come to Poznan, she refused to tell me that I should focus on studying. Nevertheless, she still assures me that she loves me and that she belongs to me. Question for you - do you think I should give up on this relationship?

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If it was for her, she would have come :) I was 300 km away from here. Both of us working full-time we saw each other every weekend and sometimes during the week. After a year we moved and it is beautiful :)
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If people care, they see it, regardless of the distance.
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I guess so, but I'm not sure
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Boy, stop listening to hints on the forum, go to the girl and enjoy every moment because there are few of them in our lives. And what will happen next is that time will show because maybe everything is okay and here whispers will sow you seeds... ...and then you'll be able to make a comment on the uncertainty. I'll keep my fingers crossed :) (not every time you go to the movies and coffee means betrayal and the relationship ends)
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first of all, going to the movies with someone doesn't have to mean a date, if she went out with a friend you'd have a problem too? Now, the next question is whether dinner is not a regular pizza or kebab? It's normal with... ...and make comments and meet up with friends. And the fact that she asked if she could, it just means she just wants to make sure she doesn't want anything from him. Besides, you're saying you've had a rehearsal session, that she's not here might indicate that she's not fucking interested in you failing her studies, for her. You're probably making up a story for the usual situation, and if you think or break up because you think so, and you haven't even talked to her about it, seriously. Trusting more random forums than your own girlfriend is a fucking joke.
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Yes, you should. Plus, she didn't hide it, but I still think it's the beginning of the end and there's nothing to fight for.
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My ex would come to me every weekend and my parents would bring him because he wanted to. For wanting rather than difficult. Plus I don't think your girlfriend should go to the movies with her friends. Coffee is okay but cinema ? Troc... unclarify the exaggeration. Take these exams eat to her and talk to her honestly and maybe meet her friends ? Ask her if you can meet them and she shouldn't mind.
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I have a boyfriend, I have friends, I'm going out with them. But it's a different thing to meet in a group of friends and it's a different thing to go to the movies and have dinner on a woman's day - this is a date, my dear. And since your woman has a need to ch... ...you shouldn't comment on that, your relationship doesn't make sense anymore...
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It all depends on how you approach the relationship. I have friends because I don't have the strength to deal with women. I have a fianc I've been with for 4 years. We're getting married in 5 days. I've been going to dinner.
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...to the movies... with the LAPDs because I just don't hang out with the women. Not because I need a date with other guys. Not every way out is a date
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And your guy also lived far away and you were in a long-distance relationship?
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we've been seeing each other practically once a week for two years. Somehow none of us have seen any occasions for betrayal in meetings with others. Such cretinism is done by people who are not adults to be in a relationship. Because a relationship... don't mean that your whole life revolves around your partner.
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First of all, you should go to her on women's day and not cover yourself with a session, secondly, you should absolutely not agree to go out with someone else, thirdly, meet this guy and explain to him directly that ... you shouldn't have to explain to him that ...
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should he ? It is not always possible to be accessible even to a loved one, not even when you have to put the loved one in the background, because love life is as important as professional life, but you have to know how to combine it.
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Since when is a college session "working life"?
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from when it gives the opportunity to take up a profession related to this direction ;)
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Hehehe in pl or medicine makes that possible:p
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Medicine 6 years at the university and that's 3 years of full-time internship and still specialization. So what do you want to know about these God-fearing weekend studies for 3 or 4 years? Maybe there's also a goat-ass magician... ...and he has to do his job because he has nowhere to go. And why are you going to this college?
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It's Polish and all clear
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yesterday I saw a confession where a girl said she was jealous of a boyfriend when she was going out with strange women. now the situation is that the girl is going out with her friends and the boyfriend is not even so much that she is with... unravel the jealous commentary about the breakup. a huge wave of hejit has been poured out on a girl from the 1st confession. this time, all the boys are saying that a partner can't meet with colleagues they both know without him. all in all, I've run out of words for such hypocrisy and double standards...
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The one I associate with her wrote about her guy going out with friends, among whom there are women he doesn't know, and here it's all about going out alone for dinner and the cinema, which is a small difference:)
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I'm sorry, I gave you a pass and I wanted to press on the answer xdas for the commentary itself: that girl was talking about both situations. and I'm not saying it's 100% okay, but the situation is incredibly similar... the girl was mixed up in the mud and called out from the fucked-up ones because bie wants the boy to go around with people she doesn't know. they just pat the boy on the back and say that she's the one who's knocked out of the house...
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I'm the one who's gonna break out. If my guy wouldn't let me go out with somebody... I have friends he doesn't know because there was no opportunity. We were 650 km apart. We saw each other not every week but once a month! We did that for over a year. No... ... dissipate the comments I kept him on my toes because I knew he had a job, a flat and other duties, and of the 48 hours he was free, he could spend 20 hours at the wheel. A commitment to a sincere feeling. Now I've gone to him in another country. That's why he doesn't know some of my friends. If he told me that I'm not allowed, for example, Michal, who I haven't seen in 2 years even though we've been in contact, then "TAM SA TREE OF THE JOURNEY GO". Okay, I understand, he's fucking gone, but he's studying for the MOTIONAL SESSION and instead of doing what he has to do and going to her, he's crying on the internet because she left a friend. I'm sorry, but for me, a guy like that with that attitude is a pussy cunt and a dickhead. Break up with her. I deserve better, or you fuck a lamb and get over it.
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Why should you give up on your relationship? He's not cheating on you or anything...
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Wait until he betrays you
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Unless he doesn't betray you
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I had a similar situation and I let her go to the cinema with a friend and get a coffee and so on and what ? After coming back from work I found her at home crying because she said it's not that and we have to part, I think it's the beginning of the end, sooner... ...or will one of your friends feel something?
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I am related to the distance from a year, where we are 1300 km away, and in Poland if the boy is 300 km away, we see each other practically on every occasion... With me, learning doesn't stop us from seeing each other, just like him ... expand your commentary, he will try to devote all his time in spite of work to me. If something was supposed to interfere with our meetings, we've arranged it. I recommend that you have an honest conversation with the girl, you'll still know what to do, but I don't think she cares.
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Bloody hell, call it a log. If she doesn't pass, she'll fail her semester if the teacher doesn't get out for a whole year and he's supposed to quit because it's women's day? I've been going out with my friends to the movies in the single play sense. How did you... ...I've been to the movies three times every time with someone else because we couldn't get a package together. I'll say something even better. One Saturday a friend of mine came by and started dragging me out to the party. My guy here in Germany doesn't fucking fall out. It's easier to get picked up with a friend, though. No! It's a vote of confidence. I'll write it nicely. My guy let me go out. So we were still together, but we lived apart and had the right to entertain, and we still have it, and we still leave home apart.
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and the author says her behavior as if she had been flashing since she arrived even though she could have come and it wasn't a problem.
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Honestly, it all depends on what your relationship is like. When it comes to going to the movies, not everyone has to be a date. Given the fact that it's still cold weather, it's better to talk over coffee... ...than in the wind or worse with her. A simple advice is not to do the Internet just by yourself. If she asks for permission, she suggests that she wants you to know about it. Just talk to her about your doubts. P.S. Trust is the basis of a relationship!
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I wouldn't be able to be with her
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Maybe this guy's gay or she's so friendzoning him that she won't touch him in life, but she won't let him go, because she enjoys free food. Maybe she's doing it on purpose, lying about these guys and the guy... expand your commentary, because he wants to provoke you to fight for her, to show the emotions of harlequin in the style of 'YOU HAD MY WOMANS AND YOU'RE GOING TO KAVE WITH ME ONLY', and then you take her in your arms, tilt her in half and kiss passionately. This option seems probable to me because as far as I understand 'colleagues' are concerned, they are suddenly activated and you have a crisis? She's already ended the relationship and is provoking you to break up not to be guilty.
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Wait till all this happens, the crises are gone
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Everything should work in two directions. You're driving so she can come too. If you love, fight if you don't let go. And the fact that she's got friends is probably normal, no one can tell anyone who she's meeting... ...and make a comment on who not to meet. But it's a little weird about this women's day...
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And I think if you're in a rehearsal session, tell her you're going with a friend to the movies and coffee. If she reacts with indifference, leave me alone. This flower is half the world. Personally... ...I can understand how she could tell you "to take care of the science"... she looks a bit like she wants time, but not for you. Forbearance has its limits, too, and since it's not important to her, how can you feel? Sorry... the answers come to mind.
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I think so, if she loved it, she would wait patiently and not look for a replacement ;) don't let it get to you that it's ONLY a colleague. Believe that no guy would want to gray and give her a girlfriend a relationship ... just because she's a friend.
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I'm a fucking traitor, he's a 100% traitor because I also cheated
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Be with her
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She shouldn't go out with another. It looks like a typical date, but she's busy. Just because she asked doesn't excuse her. She shouldn't have gotten that idea at all, because it certainly hurt you. Well, let's just... unravel the comment that she's trying to hide behind the fact that "otherwise she would have spent women's day alone." I think the next time you come to her, you should talk to each other honestly. And if you're gonna end the subject and get mad, then try to make it happen.
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